Who did you have to be to be a 'good girl' in your family?

Let me ask you this:





Whatever your answer, I’d guess it involves prioritizing others over yourself. Suppressing your own needs. Keeping the peace.




You are not alone.

Women are experts at reading the needs of those around them—your partner, children, colleagues, friends, family. You know exactly how they’re feeling, what they need, and you act on it without hesitation.

It's exhausting and overwhelming.

When was the last time you gave yourself the same level of care?
When did you last stop and ask:
"What do I need? How do I feel? What would support me?"
We’ve all heard, “Put your oxygen mask on first,”—but has that ever truly felt possible for you?

If you’re here, reading this, my guess is rarely—if ever.



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The cost of putting yourself last

Let me share a story.

Recently, I hosted a Wellness Day for women in my local community. I poured hours into creating a space of deep comfort—fresh flowers, candles, a beautiful centrepiece—so that when women walked in, they could immediately exhale.

As I was finishing up, a woman I knew passed by. She’s juggling a demanding job, three kids, and the stress of selling her home.
With a smile, I beckoned her in. “Come and take a look! I’m hosting a beautiful day tomorrow for local women—to be nourished, to learn skills to deepen their own wellness and self-care.”
I was hoping she might consider making space for herself, too.
Instead, she scoffed. “Who has time for that?” she muttered, clearly irritated by the very idea that she could choose to rest.
And she’s not alone.
So many women get defensive at the suggestion that they matter. That their well-being should come first.
“But isn’t that selfish?”
This is where our work together begins.
If you’ve been taught that selflessness—the absence of self—is what makes you ‘good,’ then no wonder prioritizing yourself feels impossible.


But here's the truth:

When you don’t get your needs met, you become resentful.

When you pour all your energy out and never back in, you burn out.

When you keep driving with an empty tank, the car stops working.

You already know how to care deeply.
You just need to turn some of that care toward yourself.

shifting from burnout to balance

There are only two ways to change how you feel:

  1. Try to control everything outside of you—your workload, your family, your responsibilities (and let’s be honest, that    lever doesn’t actually exist).
  2. Shift how you meet yourself. How you listen to your needs, prioritize yourself, and actively care for your well-being.

Simply put: How you love yourself.

There are many definitions of love, but one I return to is this:
Love is the act of giving attention to something.
Isn’t it time you gave attention to yourself?

how do you begin?

If you are ready to heal from burnout and exhaustion and feel less overwhelmed, I'd love to support you.

I offer support and therapy for women experiencing burnout, exhaustion and overwhelm through:

Individual counselling sessions 

My 6-Week 'Rediscovering You' Program:
A step-by-step process designed to educate, heal, and support you in moving forward.

My Weekend Retreats.

Everything I offer is available online via Zoom, so no matter where you are in the world, you can access this support.
I also see clients in person in my rooms in Robertson and Bowral, Southern Highlands, NSW.

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With years of dedicated experience, I've guided many women through the challenging terrains of narcissistic abuse, trauma, and burnout.

My expertise lies in helping you navigate these pivotal moments when everything seems to hit at once, empowering you to break free from patterns of self-abandonment and rediscover your own truth and needs.

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